Who I Am Not: Enhancing Self-Clarity through Cultivating Not-Me Identities
Saied, Neveen
Saied, Neveen
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2026-01-09
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Academy of Management Journal
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How do people develop and leverage self-definitions of who and what they are not, or their “not-me” identities, to navigate their work lives? In contrast to dominant portrayals of not-me identities as negative or oppositional, we explore how they can serve as resources in identity work. Drawing on a grounded theory study of 80 interviews with independent workers and clients, we identify a process we call “identity filtering.” Through this process, individuals identify and disconfirm misaligned role or relational elements, cultivating not-me identity repertoires that serve as reference points for how they engage in and shape their role-relationships. We identify two distinct pathways: some individuals enact their not-me identities through setting boundaries and role screening, which in turn enhance their self-clarity. Others suppress their not-me identities by engaging in enmeshment, which generates emotional strain. These diverging paths emerge through distinct underlying mechanisms: self-worth and desire for control both enable enactment, while adaptability constrains it. By reconceptualizing not-me identities as resources, this study advances identity theory and deepens understanding of how (independent) workers navigate fluid role-relationships and uncertainty in contemporary work.
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3505 Human Resources and Industrial Relations, 35 Commerce, Management, Tourism and Services, 3507 Strategy, Management and Organisational Behaviour